That is SO MUCH to be going through, all at one time. I agree - rest is paramount, and I'm glad you're taking it. Best of luck on your surgery, and I hope it gives you everything you need from it. I'm so sorry to hear about the loss of your fertility.
I've spent most of my life having to hustle to get by, so I'm frankly shit at resting, but I'm trying to get better. Right now it looks like reading on the couch instead of finishing my to do list. Letting the dishes rest in the sink for a bit longer so I can watch the cute dog videos. Going to the gym instead of addressing the endless list of tasks for my business. Nothing bad has happened yet, so I think it might be okay to keep doing?
Wow..life is a crazy shitshow! Seems so overwhelming and chaotic most of the time! How did we ever function before all this technology! I read that a mobile phone can connect us with people far away, but can distance us from people next to us! Its so true. People used to visit each other, and make an effort to see, care and help each other. Sadly our communication technology has made us more alone and detached, in a very hectic lifestyle. Things are manic and when stressed, we use up precious energy and our bodies react..especially the weak areas. My back has floored me again..well more like a quasimodo painful position actually 🙃😅😕! My hernia makes my stomach hurt, and when I get stressed, even talking about things sets my barrets oesophagus into coughing! I have got to calm down and get rid of the pain..which my marvellous kinesiologist is helping with! I have to deal with 2 dogs that want attention and walks, while I can just make it to the loo myself! My mother is at home with bad flu, that is contagious and debilitating! She is recovering from a broken hip, and been looking after my dad...who...is now in hospital also confined to a room, as he fell down the stairs and also has the flu, which has diarrhoea too!
I am also needing to pack up my home, and move to a much smaller place so getting rid of things..that are just things, but still an element of attachment. The whole move is traumatic enough, without my back playing up! My brother is being a cruel selfish rat 🐀, which is an insult to rats! He is vile and vindictive, in a world where we need kindness more than ever, especially when dealing with ailing parents!
So, my dear, I totally get why you need to step back and heal your soul and spirit.
Your man loves you, for being you, and will support you throughout. Your body has had so much trauma, maybe expanding your family is not good for it in the future, so resting now is helping it recover from the past. You may find a mutual, shared passion for the future, that you can both develop and nurture with love that does not strain your body.
Really appreciating your vulnerability in sharing what's going on for you, the condition your managing, and the shit hard conditions of self-employment! I also struggle with chronic pain and CPTSD, and managing that while being self-employed in the dog world has been really challenging.
To look after myself I reduced my working capacity drastically a few years back to give myself time and space to recover. This meant some serious penny pinching; however - similar to you in taking my own advice - I have spent the last two years slowly growing my window of tolerance. I have enjoyed a steady return of my capacity, which is actually what has recently led me to substack. So appreciating writers like you in similar professions who are honest about how their life shapes their work!
Thank you! It's easy to write about how fantastic life is and how well business is going, but often there is more going on behind the scenes than is told.
I do believe that our own life experience makes us more empathetic to our dogs and dogparents, so it can make us better at our jobs. But we need to be physically fit, and mentally strong to be at our best for everything in life and so it's always good to take stock when we need to.
That is SO MUCH to be going through, all at one time. I agree - rest is paramount, and I'm glad you're taking it. Best of luck on your surgery, and I hope it gives you everything you need from it. I'm so sorry to hear about the loss of your fertility.
I've spent most of my life having to hustle to get by, so I'm frankly shit at resting, but I'm trying to get better. Right now it looks like reading on the couch instead of finishing my to do list. Letting the dishes rest in the sink for a bit longer so I can watch the cute dog videos. Going to the gym instead of addressing the endless list of tasks for my business. Nothing bad has happened yet, so I think it might be okay to keep doing?
Sounds like a good plan to me!
Wow..life is a crazy shitshow! Seems so overwhelming and chaotic most of the time! How did we ever function before all this technology! I read that a mobile phone can connect us with people far away, but can distance us from people next to us! Its so true. People used to visit each other, and make an effort to see, care and help each other. Sadly our communication technology has made us more alone and detached, in a very hectic lifestyle. Things are manic and when stressed, we use up precious energy and our bodies react..especially the weak areas. My back has floored me again..well more like a quasimodo painful position actually 🙃😅😕! My hernia makes my stomach hurt, and when I get stressed, even talking about things sets my barrets oesophagus into coughing! I have got to calm down and get rid of the pain..which my marvellous kinesiologist is helping with! I have to deal with 2 dogs that want attention and walks, while I can just make it to the loo myself! My mother is at home with bad flu, that is contagious and debilitating! She is recovering from a broken hip, and been looking after my dad...who...is now in hospital also confined to a room, as he fell down the stairs and also has the flu, which has diarrhoea too!
I am also needing to pack up my home, and move to a much smaller place so getting rid of things..that are just things, but still an element of attachment. The whole move is traumatic enough, without my back playing up! My brother is being a cruel selfish rat 🐀, which is an insult to rats! He is vile and vindictive, in a world where we need kindness more than ever, especially when dealing with ailing parents!
So, my dear, I totally get why you need to step back and heal your soul and spirit.
Your man loves you, for being you, and will support you throughout. Your body has had so much trauma, maybe expanding your family is not good for it in the future, so resting now is helping it recover from the past. You may find a mutual, shared passion for the future, that you can both develop and nurture with love that does not strain your body.
Rest well, and as long as you need. Take care px
Thank you my lovely for your words. I'm so sorry for all you are going through. Families can be so very tough x
Really appreciating your vulnerability in sharing what's going on for you, the condition your managing, and the shit hard conditions of self-employment! I also struggle with chronic pain and CPTSD, and managing that while being self-employed in the dog world has been really challenging.
To look after myself I reduced my working capacity drastically a few years back to give myself time and space to recover. This meant some serious penny pinching; however - similar to you in taking my own advice - I have spent the last two years slowly growing my window of tolerance. I have enjoyed a steady return of my capacity, which is actually what has recently led me to substack. So appreciating writers like you in similar professions who are honest about how their life shapes their work!
Rest well x
Thank you! It's easy to write about how fantastic life is and how well business is going, but often there is more going on behind the scenes than is told.
I do believe that our own life experience makes us more empathetic to our dogs and dogparents, so it can make us better at our jobs. But we need to be physically fit, and mentally strong to be at our best for everything in life and so it's always good to take stock when we need to.